For a long time, I resisted positive thinking because I thought it would be false, a vaneer over my true thoughts. Now I see that as long as I operated from a place of fear, unmet needs, and old wounds, positive thinking would not be a good fit. First I had to heal those areas of myself. Then I could have the serenity (which is the feeling of peace which is the absence of turmoil and conflict), mindfulness (which in this case is the ability to notice good things), and gratitude (which is the feeling that good things are a gift).
Once I had these three at times, I could at times engage in the positive thinking of appreciating without judging and holding a perspective that things are ok now and may very well be ok in the future. Notice that I use the word ok; I am not saying that the present is perfect or totally wonderful. This moment holds too much sensory information and action and thought to be categorized as this or that. I realize now is simply there. This form of positive thinking allows me to sit back and let others be in control and enjoy the good parts of this now.
I’m not ignoring the bad, simply saying that when things properly under my control are actually bad then negative thinking will be ok. Until then, I have good things to do and good thoughts to think.
From the title, you may be wondering what precisely are the steps. For me, the details of the steps have been and are unique to my journey. I can’t imagine your journey. I can simply encourage you to find healing and begin to balance your thoughts between negative and positive. That said, I will try to illuminate my path for you in case some of the steps apply.
My Path of Positive Wisdom 